March 2012
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“If you can look at the reproductive rights movement in America and come to the...”
– Something I said yesterday. (via garlandgrey)
Yeah, speaking of hate following. Do you ever quote anyone? It was something that transphobic radfems used to do a whole lot—blog posts, essays, and entire websites against trans people that didn’t include a single direct quote from a single trans...
February 2012
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When is it oppression (plus a few thoughts on...
mcgoats:
youarenotyou:
eshusplayground:
Some weeks ago, I was chatting with moononwaters about what oppression looks like, when it dawned on me …
Look at who’s dying.
It was shocking to discover how simple and pervasive that is. Because when you come down to it, oppression is meant to maintain power by annihilating the Other. Whether by violence or neglect, the oppressed are the ones who...
lebanesepoppyseed asked: Stop reblogging that post, the notes go to me when you do so. The thread is dead and been dead. As you can see, there are hundreds of responses and posts dedicated to why such a mentality as yours is absolutely bigoted and ignorant in its inane, oversimplified generalizing of a whole genre. Quit digging yourself a deeper hole already.
I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with...
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someotherchick replied to your post: mostroadsleadhome replied to…
I think ppl forget that just bc they’re not actively thinkin “I dont like rap/hip hop bc it’s black music” doesn’t mean that anti-black racism doesn’t figure into those...
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I feel like the LGBTQ community would be a lot...
stormreach:
Seriously, words have power and the potential to make a profound impact on people. If people would take time to ask questions, calmly communicate, and work to understand something instead of spewing hateful shit everywhere, it would make life a hell of a lot easier. And no, I’m not talking about the right-wing-superchristians. No, this is about the intolerance within our own...
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Anonymous asked: i’m a fat person living inside a...
bi-in-alberta:
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therapsida:
whatfreshhellisthis:
Are you fucking kidding me
I am 100% certain this is a troll.
I’ve been on tumblr/the internet too long, for I am not anywhere close to certain it is.
it was only a matter of time
oh wow
You know things have gone to hell when, even if it is a troll, you know there’s people somewhere who...
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jedgarhooverinararaskirt:
“When I was a child, I was sexually assaulted, but not by any particular person. It was my culture that had his way with me.”
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are you for fucking real Julia Serano
I have a lot of issues with someone using rape as a metaphor for socialization. Childhood socialization can be harmful, but that comparison makes my skin crawl.
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In defense of Arkh... or not.
stfuconservatives:
^ Agreed 100%. Today, Tim Schaefer raised more than $1,000,000 to independently develop a game. Their Kickstarter page didn’t have a design document or a list of the programmers they’d already hired or any of the high-level stuff people are demanding from Arkh. They have some concept art and an idea of the gameplay. And they have more than a million bucks to develop it from...
Anonymous asked: two minor quibbles: some trans men do have PIV sex with men and I bet a lot of genderqueer people do too. not all lesbians are cis, so only the cis lesbians can be grouped under the category cis women.
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raptortooth asked: It's certainly appropriate to be frustrated or angry. It's where you go from there that can get problematic. This seems to be a case of displacement, it is extremely justified for trans* people to be pissed at their lack of recognition. It is not so justified that the anger is being expressed in this debate.
raptortooth asked: But as a cis female (I assume), the movement IS targeted towards you, more than it is to me anyway. As a woman, you are a candidate for needing the service. As a non-binary, I don't exist. I don't deserve recognition. It's not oppression, it's frustrating.
raptortooth asked: I actually agree with you about not making them the center of the debate. That's not how you get results. I'm not talking about every trans* man giving their opinion on abortion. But should a trans* man who has personally had an abortion be ignored on the basis that he is male? I realize that making him the center of the issue would be upsetting to people, but should that mean his...
raptortooth asked: I think it's best to assume that there are trans* men out there who are uneducated, taking risks, or just plain unlucky. Contraceptives fail. So while trans* men don't need their own special spotlight, saying the debate "isn't about them" is problematic to me. For example, should cis women who can't become pregnant be taken out of the abortion debate? They'll...
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Someone please explain to me what good marriage...
tuanthecat:
saltmarshhag:
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genderbitch:
tal9000:
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abandontheships:
I’m waiting.
someone please explain to me what good employment rights are when you are denied tax breaks and visitation rights to your dying partner?
i’m waiting.
[see how you have a valid point that gay politics need to expand in scope but see how you aren’t too radical for...
raptortooth asked: Being trans* doesn't give people superior knowledge of contraception. It doesn't even give them more incentive to use it. Generally, if people don't want to be pregnant, they DO NOT want to be pregnant. The only difference between cis women and everyone else who can become pregnant is that there are more cis women. I don't actually fully agree with the "uterus-bearer"...
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A post about privilege
femmesandfamily:
I am a white, cis, queer femme. I want to make that very clear that when I am writing this, I am doing it from this perspective. I also do not claim to be an expert. But I know my lived experiences. And this is them.
Being feminine is a privilege in many ways if you identify and are read and female.
For instance, you are typically seen as approachable. You might...
raptortooth asked: It's not exactly unheard of for trans men to have vaginal sex. I don't personally see the need to change every single advertisement to be 100% inclusive of everybody, so long as the other groups still get acknowledged somewhere, but I think you underestimate the number of trans* people who are connected to the issue. And, unless you're suggesting that non-binaries get to join in the...
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Hey trans bros, the reproductive fight is not...
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thewonderfulbuttnugget:
I don’t give a fuck if you’re a guy like me or anything. I don’t give a fuck that you have parts that can carry a baby to term just like a cis woman can. You have upward mobility...
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Hey trans bros, the reproductive fight is not...
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thewonderfulbuttnugget:
I don’t give a fuck if you’re a guy like me or anything. I don’t give a fuck that you have parts that can carry a baby to term just like a cis woman can. You have upward mobility in this society because you’re a guy, and if...
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Hey trans bros, the reproductive fight is not...
thewonderfulbuttnugget:
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unknowablewoman:
thewonderfulbuttnugget:
I don’t give a fuck if you’re a guy like me or anything. I don’t give a fuck that you have parts that can carry a baby to term just like a cis woman can. You have upward mobility in this society because you’re a guy, and if you’re not being perceived as a guy you’re still a guy...
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Hey trans bros, the reproductive fight is not...
clatterandclank:
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unknowablewoman:
thewonderfulbuttnugget:
I don’t give a fuck if you’re a guy like me or anything. I don’t give a fuck that you have parts that can carry a baby to term just like a cis woman can. You have upward mobility in this society because you’re a guy, and if you’re not being perceived as a guy you’re still a guy and should be nice to...
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Disclosure culture--
unknowablewoman:
It’s disturbing.
No one is obligated to reveal their sexual orientation, gender identity or dis/ability status to anyone else on this godforsaken website.
STOP assuming you know any of these things about people just because you’re involved in an internet spat. You cannot fucking tell if someone is trans unless they tell you, and the same goes for queerness and dis/ability...
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Hey trans bros, the reproductive fight is not...
unknowablewoman:
thewonderfulbuttnugget:
I don’t give a fuck if you’re a guy like me or anything. I don’t give a fuck that you have parts that can carry a baby to term just like a cis woman can. You have upward mobility in this society because you’re a guy, and if you’re not being perceived as a guy you’re still a guy and should be nice to women instead of WHAT ABOUT THE MENZ? every time...
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An illustration involving children
permutationofninjas:
just-smith:
Okay. So you’re a child. It’s your birthday. Your parents decide that they are going to take you and nine of your friends out to the zoo for the day.
Now, ten young excitable children are pretty hard to manage, so they decide to split you up into two groups. One group get given blue stickers and they’re told to go with your dad, and one group get given red...
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Plato and Patriarchy and Romance Novels
revolvingsky:
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Hi! As for the bias—ha, no worries, it takes all kinds to make a party, right? I mean, I’m a gold star lesbian (for what it’s worth, which is, approximately, nothing), which you’d think would make me pretty queer—but it’s not a label I claim for myself because it does have a concrete meaning to it these days. The queer subculture...
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Horrifying Experience
socialjusticeally:
fuckthebinary:
You guys will not believe what happened today.
I just joined a new support group. Today was the first day. During introductions, the leader of the group asked me what my preferred pronouns were, and I said “male pronouns”. Sounds like a great guy, right? Yeah. That’s what I thought, too.
Later on in the group, I was sharing the struggle I am going through...
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Plato and Patriarchy and Romance Novels
revolvingsky:
I’m finding all this discussion to be pretty fascinating. Personal bias disclosure: I generally identify as ace, though not as queer, even though I’m not hetero-romantic. Partly it’s that even though I do sometimes say I’m biromantic/panromantic, I’m not entirely sure if those are the best terms for me to use (the short form is that I definitely do not identify as straight, for...
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Plato and Patriarchy and Romance Novels
(Snipped for brevity and sanity cause whoah)
kwerey:
You are most welcome! I really like bouncing ideas around on the internet, at least so long as it doesn’t end up escalating into massive drama mode where everyone’s too invested in winning the argument to actually think about the other sides of it.
Hope you had a good yesterday, too. Mine was more fun than I expected: it turned into...
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Word of the day: Queerplatonic
kwerey:
Ahhh right, I just looked at the rest of the conversations you’re having. Kay! You enjoy your snarking, I reckon it’s pretty well-deserved.
Yeah, I think we basically agree on most of this stuff, and yeah, there almost certainly is a better word. If homo-romantic asexual folks who started using that kind of term, I’d probably be on their side in the inevitable semantic flamewar, but...
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Word of the day: Queerplatonic
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But that said, if it matters for them that queer stays specific and if it matters for a lot of other people, it could be worth me reconsidering. I think broadening queer to mean anything that says ‘fuck you and your implicit rules’ to society works nicely as a definition for me, and I say that as someone who’s not likely to ever experience...
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Word of the day: Queerplatonic
kwerey:
jhameia:
meloukhia:
An outgrowth of a conversation about aromantic orientations, and the desire to be able to define relationships that are not romantic, that are also not friendships, and that play an important role in your life. I think it’s time to turn this one loose into the wild. Use it well, use it widely. (If you identify with it, at any rate.)
Queerplatonic is a word for...
kwerey asked: Hey there person who quotes Dante! I responded to your commentary on the queerplatonic thing that's been going around, but because I'm still perplexed by how Tumblr works it didn't occur to me to just reblog directly from you so you might not be aware of that. Buuuut I like knowing when people talk about me on the internet, so in case you do too here is a link to what I said -...
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One Town's War on Gay Teens →
solidbutts:
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salmonking:
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doctorwhookah:
blainescarnivorousasshole:
lettersfromtitan:
1. This is very triggering about bullying and suicide. Proceed with caution.
2. This is from Rolling Stone’s Valentine’s Day issue.
3. If you are a straight person in the Glee fandom, oh god, do I want you to read every word of this.
This is horrifying, and that’s exactly...
lebanesepoppyseed asked: I'm done going back & forth with you on the hip hop/rap bullshit, but you need to know, it doesn't matter that you're Dominican. Dominican doesn't automatically mean you're black, & if anything, you would know best how anti-black Dominicans can be even if they are. My mom is always running her mouth about African American culture thinking that makes her look good....
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soeffinhappy asked: God forgive me, I know it's in poor spirit, but am I ever excited for all the snotty SJAs you encounter to get out in the real world. The bills you gotta pay don't give a fuck about queer anarchist philosophy (or whatever the hell).
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Respectfully Disagree
saltmarshhag:
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from this father’s message to his daughter
That guy had every right to do that to that laptop. FIVE STARS FOR THE BEST OLD SCHOOL DAD…he could’ve sold it to get back the money he used for the...
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I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with...
lebanesepoppyseed:
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Oh, you are really too much fun. You, random stranger on the internet, snerk at me for making blanket generalizations and then go on and make sweeping ones of your own. I don’t have to credentialize myself to you. However, I will say this: I am a lesbian. My primary issue with ‘mainstream’ rap is that it is alarmingly homophobic and...
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Abstinence-only educators make me wish for a...
kathryndelgenio:
The Unpopular Opinions of a Post-Modern Prep: reelaroundthefountain: “One popular classroom exercise, for example,…
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“One popular classroom exercise, for example, employs Scotch Tape to demonstrate how premarital sex can make girls dirty. A teacher holds up a clear strip of tape, meant to...
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reelaroundthefountain:
“One popular classroom exercise, for example, employs Scotch Tape to demonstrate how premarital sex can make girls dirty. A teacher holds up a clear strip of tape, meant to represent a girl, in front of the class. The teacher then puts the strip of tape, adhesive side down, on the arm of a boy in the class, to symbolize his sexual relationship with the girl. The teacher...
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More explanations
occupythedisco:
The Unpopular Opinions of a Post-Modern Prep: I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with race.
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I think ppl forget that just bc they’re not actively thinkin “I dont like…
Also...
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I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with...
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someotherchick replied to your post: mostroadsleadhome replied to…
I think ppl forget that just bc they’re not actively thinkin “I dont like rap/hip hop bc it’s black music” doesn’t mean that anti-black racism doesn’t figure into those...
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I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with...
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someotherchick replied to your post: mostroadsleadhome replied to…
I think ppl forget that just bc they’re not actively thinkin “I dont like rap/hip hop bc it’s black music” doesn’t mean that anti-black racism doesn’t figure into those...
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I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with...
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someotherchick replied to your post: mostroadsleadhome replied to…
I think ppl forget that just bc they’re not actively thinkin “I dont like rap/hip hop bc it’s black music” doesn’t mean that anti-black racism doesn’t figure into...
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Because I'm supposed to pay money to be called a...
ueberlandundmeerfuerdeutschland:
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aspasiathelayza:
The Unpopular Opinions of a Post-Modern Prep: I dont like rap and it has nothing to do with race.
it’s pretty damn homophobic and it’s pretty misogynistic and I don’t like my music telling me that I can *beep* that *beep* up and *beep* the *beep* *beep*. Half the time, so many words are *beeeped* out that I...