The Unpopular Opinions of a Post-Modern Prep

The appropriately inappropriate opinions of a post-modern prep. All the news that's fit to print, and some things that aren't. This tumblr will address hypocrisy in all its flavours. I will be brutal in doing so.
sometimeswordsfailyou: hesawitonthetelevision: Gun-toting granny Ava Estelle, 81, was so ticked-off when two thugs raped her 18-year-old granddaughter that she tracked the unsuspecting ex-cons down… And shot off their testicles. “The old lady spent a week hunting those men down and, when she found them, she took revenge on them in her own special way,” said police investigator Evan Delp. Then she took a taxi to the nearest police station, laid the gun on the sergeant’s desk and told him as calm as could be: “Those bastards will never rape anybody again, by God.” Cops say convicted rapist and robber Davis Furth, 33, lost both his penis and his testicles when outraged Ava opened fire with a 9-mm pistol in the hotel room where he and former prison cell mate Stanley Thomas, 29, were holed up. The wrinkled avenger also blew Thomas’ testicles to kingdom come, but doctors managed to save his mangled penis, police said. “The one guy, Thomas, didn’t lose his manhood, but the doctor I talked to said he won’t be using it the way he used to,” Detective Delp told reporters. “Both men are still in pretty bad shape, but I think they’re just happy to be alive after what they’ve been through.” The Rambo Granny swung into action August 21 after her granddaughter Debbie was carjacked and raped in broad daylight by two knife-wielding creeps in a section of town bordering on skid row. “When I saw the look on my Debbie’s face that night in the hospital, I decided I was going to go out and get those bastards myself ‘cause I figured the Law would go easy on them,”’ recalled the retired library worker. ” And I wasn’t scared of them, either - because I’ve got me a gun and I’ve been shooting’ all my life. And I wasn’t dumb enough to turn it in when the law changed about owning one.” So, using a police artist’s sketch of the suspects and Debbie’s description of the sickos, tough-as-nails Ava spent seven days prowling the wino-infested neighbourhood where the crime took place till she spotted the ill-fated rapists entering their flophouse hotel. “I knew it was them the minute I saw ‘em, but I shot a picture of ‘em anyway and took it back to Debbie and she said sure as hell, it was them,” the oldster recalled… “So I went back to that hotel and found their room and knocked on the door, and the minute the big one opened the door, I shot ‘em right square between the legs, right where it would really hurt ‘em most, you know. Then I went in and shot the other one as he backed up pleading to me to spare him. Then I went down to the police station and turned myself in.” Now, baffled lawmen are trying to figure out exactly how to deal with the vigilante granny.. “What she did was wrong, and she broke the law, but it is difficult to throw an 81-year-old woman in prison,” Det. Delp said, “especially when 3 million people in the city want to nominate her for Mayor.” Fucking amazing! Go granny! My favourite bit is his last comment. Granny for Mayor.

sometimeswordsfailyou:

hesawitonthetelevision:

Gun-toting granny Ava Estelle, 81, was so ticked-off when two thugs raped her 18-year-old granddaughter that she tracked the unsuspecting ex-cons down… And shot off their testicles.

“The old lady spent a week hunting those men down and, when she found them, she took revenge on them in her own special way,” said police investigator Evan Delp.

Then she took a taxi to the nearest police station, laid the gun on the sergeant’s desk and told him as calm as could be: “Those bastards will never rape anybody again, by God.”

Cops say convicted rapist and robber Davis Furth, 33, lost both his penis and his testicles when outraged Ava opened fire with a 9-mm pistol in the hotel room where he and former prison cell mate Stanley Thomas, 29, were holed up.

The wrinkled avenger also blew Thomas’ testicles to kingdom come, but doctors managed to save his mangled penis, police said. “The one guy, Thomas, didn’t lose his manhood, but the doctor I talked to said he won’t be using it the way he used to,” Detective Delp told reporters. “Both men are still in pretty bad shape, but I think they’re just happy to be alive after what they’ve been through.”

The Rambo Granny swung into action August 21 after her granddaughter Debbie was carjacked and raped in broad daylight by two knife-wielding creeps in a section of town bordering on skid row. “When I saw the look on my Debbie’s face that night in the hospital, I decided I was going to go out and get those bastards myself ‘cause I figured the Law would go easy on them,”’ recalled the retired library worker. ” And I wasn’t scared of them, either - because I’ve got me a gun and I’ve been shooting’ all my life. And I wasn’t dumb enough to turn it in when the law changed about owning one.”

So, using a police artist’s sketch of the suspects and Debbie’s description of the sickos, tough-as-nails Ava spent seven days prowling the wino-infested neighbourhood where the crime took place till she spotted the ill-fated rapists entering their flophouse hotel.

“I knew it was them the minute I saw ‘em, but I shot a picture of ‘em anyway and took it back to Debbie and she said sure as hell, it was them,” the oldster recalled…

“So I went back to that hotel and found their room and knocked on the door, and the minute the big one opened the door, I shot ‘em right square between the legs, right where it would really hurt ‘em most, you know. Then I went in and shot the other one as he backed up pleading to me to spare him. Then I went down to the police station and turned myself in.”

Now, baffled lawmen are trying to figure out exactly how to deal with the vigilante granny.. “What she did was wrong, and she broke the law, but it is difficult to throw an 81-year-old woman in prison,” Det. Delp said, “especially when 3 million people in the city want to nominate her for Mayor.”

Fucking amazing! Go granny!

My favourite bit is his last comment.

Granny for Mayor.

(Source: creativehypocrisy, via missjessicasmith)

Anonymous asked: Sorry, I should've also said--yes, I agree with your points and appreciate your making them. Didn't think you were defending the OP, I just could not resist making that point about the "at worst" assumption. I suspect you can relate to that feeling. :)

No problem!

I think you raise a very valid point. I mean, the “at worst case” can certainly be a lot worse than just the heebie jeebies.

And I certainly can! :)

subtract me from your heart.: gagasm: doulaness: takeawaygirl: the—pits: takeawaygirl: people...

gagasm:

gagasm:

doulaness:

takeawaygirl:

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takeawaygirl:

people insisting that radfems focus too much on transwomen but failing to address the way we’re incessantly attacked by transwomen and their supporters for asserting our right to male-free space

insisting on…

Actually there are physical differences between male and female brains.

And that’s why women are too silly to hold higher office or high pressure positions. And that’s ALSO why women are bad at math and should stay home and nurture babies.

Right?

Because you know that brain science bullshit is used to reinforce conservative legislation and the exclusion of women from equal spheres of influence.

Funny that THAT is your defence.

jesters-armed: appropriately-inappropriate: laura-changeling: appropriately-inappropriate: takeawaygirl: ?????????????????????????????????? I KNOW THEY HATE IT BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE I AM DOING THEM A FAVOR ?????????????????????????????????? See, and I actually think this is alright, if done respectfully. If you approach someone and very politely say, “I know this is unorthodox. I just wanted to say, you’re really lovely and I hope you have a great day”, and leave it at that, then in my opinion, that’s alright. It’s sweet and respectful and it might really brighten someone’s day. There’s a huge difference between something like that and being like “hayyy nena u a hawttie back dat ass up mami”. I think the difference rests in the approach and the attitude. No no no NO. See, this is the problem right here: it is YOU who is intruding into somebody else’s personal space uninvited, so it’s not up to you to decide whether it’s “alright” or not. Because you see, the creep who wolf whistles and catcalls probably also thinks “it’s alright” because “hey man, I just paid her a compliment, it’s not like I groped her or anything!” If you really want to be respectful, what you do is think about the reaction that this person that you’re about to engage might have to your “innocent” compliment. You don’t know her. You have no idea whether she’ll react with a smile or whether she’ll be creeped out. But you decide to take the plunge anyway because you really, really want to tell them that they’re beautiful? Uh-huh. If your whim is more important to you than respecting other people’s boundaries, then you’re not being “sweet” or “respectful” at all, no matter how “polite” you might think you are. Please read this and think about it, really think instead of saying “oh, but *I* think it’s alright, therefore it *is* alright!”: http://larissafae.tumblr.com/post/51142364415/gwartallica-insanehousewife With all due respect, there’s a huge difference between an objectifying wolf-whistle and a friendly complement. There’s the issues of intent, approach and respect. If you’re intending to flirt, then best keep your nonsense to yourself. Nobody (myself included, female that I am) likes being the target of objectifying creepy complements—and I’ve had enough in my life that I know precisely what it feels like to be told “eyy mami nice ass” or “eyy you have such sexy lips nena”. That’s objectification pure and simple—what can YOU do for ME, as it were. If you’re complementing someone on a sexualized body part then by all means, you’re a creep and need to back off. But a harmless complement is a harmless complement—complementing someone on a well put together outfit, or mentioning that they have a beautiful smile—those are entirely different. So long as the aim is not to approach, then it’s platonic. To me, it’s the difference between “Hey baby, why don’t you smile for me!” and “Wow, you have a really nice smile!” See? One is very self-focused (“for me”), whereas a genuine complement is other-focused (“your smile”). For me, that’s the critical distinction between a creepy complement and a genuine complement, and that makes a world of difference. And while I do empathize (and know the feeling because hey, fairly femme straight-passing lady here), I still think that she’s identifying a sort of entitled attitude—the same I have. If someone follows up a complement with “so whats your number” then of course it’s sketchy and creepy. That’s what she’s addressing. But I fail to see how a simple “I just thought I’d say I really love that outfit/shade of lipstick/ring/etc” and then wandering away is infringing upon someone’s space. BUT AGAIN: this may be a cultural thing, because I come from a culture where complements and harmless flirting are far more accepted (and acceptable) than in a North American context. appropriately-inappropriate This! I can’t count the times I complimented strangers (of both sexes) on something or other: a beautifully coloured scarf, a leather jacked stitched with the star constellations of the Northern Hemisphere, an extraordinary hairdo - you name it! Looking at something beautiful immensely cheers me up and I see no reason why I shouldn’t tell the “wearer/owner” that it does so and I like it. In my experience people react very kind to compliments from a stranger and in no way view it as infringement on their space. Perhaps, if we complemented strangers more, we could implement a balance to all the creeps that only talk to strangers to chat them up. Agreed! I mean, on a personal level, I love getting complements, be it on my hair or an outfit or my taste in literature or whatever. They always make me perk up and smile, because it’s nice to have someone recognize that oh hell yes, you own that xyz. So, I started passing it on. When I worked as a waitress, I’d find one person at every table, generally the person who looked like they were the most tired/crankly/needed a hug, and I’d complement them on one thing. Either their manicure or their makeup or their supercutepurse!, and I found that they tended to brighten up and smile a bit more. But I think it was the fact that people recoognized I was genuine about it; not faking it for the tips, or to creep, but because I really meant it, and I think that carried through. So a complement like that is a completely different critter than the creepy complement; one’s a turtle and one’s a tortoise. Easy to confuse until you see them in action, I guess. In any case, I just like bringing a bit of positivity into peoples’ days, and if I can accomplish that with an “Oh my gosh those shoes!”, then that’s what I’ll do.

jesters-armed:

appropriately-inappropriate:

laura-changeling:

appropriately-inappropriate:

takeawaygirl:

??????????????????????????????????

I KNOW THEY HATE IT BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE I AM DOING THEM A FAVOR

??????????????????????????????????

See, and I actually think this is alright, if done respectfully.

If you approach someone and very politely say, “I know this is unorthodox. I just wanted to say, you’re really lovely and I hope you have a great day”, and leave it at that, then in my opinion, that’s alright.
It’s sweet and respectful and it might really brighten someone’s day.

There’s a huge difference between something like that and being like “hayyy nena u a hawttie back dat ass up mami”.

I think the difference rests in the approach and the attitude.

No no no NO. See, this is the problem right here: it is YOU who is intruding into somebody else’s personal space uninvited, so it’s not up to you to decide whether it’s “alright” or not. Because you see, the creep who wolf whistles and catcalls probably also thinks “it’s alright” because “hey man, I just paid her a compliment, it’s not like I groped her or anything!”

If you really want to be respectful, what you do is think about the reaction that this person that you’re about to engage might have to your “innocent” compliment. You don’t know her. You have no idea whether she’ll react with a smile or whether she’ll be creeped out. But you decide to take the plunge anyway because you really, really want to tell them that they’re beautiful? Uh-huh. If your whim is more important to you than respecting other people’s boundaries, then you’re not being “sweet” or “respectful” at all, no matter how “polite” you might think you are.

Please read this and think about it, really think instead of saying “oh, but *I* think it’s alright, therefore it *is* alright!”: http://larissafae.tumblr.com/post/51142364415/gwartallica-insanehousewife

With all due respect, there’s a huge difference between an objectifying wolf-whistle and a friendly complement.
There’s the issues of intent, approach and respect.

If you’re intending to flirt, then best keep your nonsense to yourself. Nobody (myself included, female that I am) likes being the target of objectifying creepy complements—and I’ve had enough in my life that I know precisely what it feels like to be told “eyy mami nice ass” or “eyy you have such sexy lips nena”.

That’s objectification pure and simple—what can YOU do for ME, as it were. If you’re complementing someone on a sexualized body part then by all means, you’re a creep and need to back off.

But a harmless complement is a harmless complement—complementing someone on a well put together outfit, or mentioning that they have a beautiful smile—those are entirely different. So long as the aim is not to approach, then it’s platonic.

To me, it’s the difference between “Hey baby, why don’t you smile for me!” and “Wow, you have a really nice smile!” See? One is very self-focused (“for me”), whereas a genuine complement is other-focused (“your smile”).

For me, that’s the critical distinction between a creepy complement and a genuine complement, and that makes a world of difference.

And while I do empathize (and know the feeling because hey, fairly femme straight-passing lady here), I still think that she’s identifying a sort of entitled attitude—the same I have.
If someone follows up a complement with “so whats your number” then of course it’s sketchy and creepy. That’s what she’s addressing. But I fail to see how a simple “I just thought I’d say I really love that outfit/shade of lipstick/ring/etc” and then wandering away is infringing upon someone’s space.

BUT AGAIN: this may be a cultural thing, because I come from a culture where complements and harmless flirting are far more accepted (and acceptable) than in a North American context.

appropriately-inappropriate This!

I can’t count the times I complimented strangers (of both sexes) on something or other: a beautifully coloured scarf, a leather jacked stitched with the star constellations of the Northern Hemisphere, an extraordinary hairdo - you name it! Looking at something beautiful immensely cheers me up and I see no reason why I shouldn’t tell the “wearer/owner” that it does so and I like it.

In my experience people react very kind to compliments from a stranger and in no way view it as infringement on their space. Perhaps, if we complemented strangers more, we could implement a balance to all the creeps that only talk to strangers to chat them up.

Agreed!
I mean, on a personal level, I love getting complements, be it on my hair or an outfit or my taste in literature or whatever. They always make me perk up and smile, because it’s nice to have someone recognize that oh hell yes, you own that xyz.

So, I started passing it on.
When I worked as a waitress, I’d find one person at every table, generally the person who looked like they were the most tired/crankly/needed a hug, and I’d complement them on one thing. Either their manicure or their makeup or their supercutepurse!, and I found that they tended to brighten up and smile a bit more.

But I think it was the fact that people recoognized I was genuine about it; not faking it for the tips, or to creep, but because I really meant it, and I think that carried through.

So a complement like that is a completely different critter than the creepy complement; one’s a turtle and one’s a tortoise. Easy to confuse until you see them in action, I guess.

In any case, I just like bringing a bit of positivity into peoples’ days, and if I can accomplish that with an “Oh my gosh those shoes!”, then that’s what I’ll do.

Anonymous asked: "At worst you'll brighten their day in a slightly creepy way" is not the "at worst." It's actually: You'll remind us that the price of public life, for females, is constant intimidation and threat of danger from men. How often/quickly does a compliment turn into an insult and a threat if you don't respond the way they want you to? Compliments are sometimes okay in context/thoughtfully stated, but the fact that this guy doesn't get what the "at worst" consequence consists of is a huge problem.

Oh, totally agreed.

At this point, I’m not defending the OP so much as I’m defending the ability to complement in general. The OP, by his own admission, is doing it with an ulterior purpose in mind—he’s trying to flirt.

And much as giving a needy person a hand isn’t kindness if you’re doing it for a photo op, giving someone a complement with the intent to cruise isn’t genuine or appropriate.

But on the other hand, if the conditions are right (ie not in an enclosed space, during the daytime, crowded public area and individual seems receptive (ie, NOT reading/listening to music/otherwise occupied), then I don’t see the harm in a casual and friendly complement regarding a specific trait (ie: “You have a lovely smile”).

So again: I think the difference between a creepy and a cool complement is the context surrounding it, and the general approach of the individual.

But that’s just me!

“Same Love” —Macklemore ft Mary Lambert

anti-naked:

im going to detail what happened between me and aimee/moewytchdog in a more coherent/organised structure, note its a VERY long post and massive content warning for #abuse #rape #sexual abuse #sexual harassment. i was hesitant about doing this for little bit for my own safety and health but i really do not care anymore, people need to know about her and just how dangerous she is. aimee, if you’re reading this: fuck right off.

tl;dr: most of you here on tumblr has heard about jamie-anne/featnickiminaj/sad__gay_baby, here we have someone who may or may not be even worse and dangerous than jamie, but her method of operation is EXTREMELY similar. i dont know how many people outside of twitter know about her as of now, but aimee/moewytchdog is a SEXUAL PREDATOR and SERIAL RAPIST who is an EXTREMELY powerful manipulator and has a major victim complex. i am not the only one who has had these kind of experiences with her, and frankly i am not the worst of her victims. she has coerced several people into sex with her in person with emotional manipulation and extreme aggression, and sexually harassed and abused many more over the internet, several of which were my friends or people in my social circles. she insists that these are rumours based in transmisogyny and that she has done nothing wrong, but she has assaulted other trans women also; she is an equal-opportunity offender. she is EXTREMELY MANIPULATIVE and toxic, by all means STAY AWAY FROM HER.

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Coming in as an outside observer, the worst part is that this is actually the main fear I had about the cotton ceiling debacle—that abusers (specifically in this case trans* individuals) would use their trans* status to enact coercion and abuse and avoid being called out by it.

I was called a radfem for it, but it’s overall just unfortunate that abusers can hide behind a label and use their status as a minority to rape and sexually coerce people.

laura-changeling: appropriately-inappropriate: takeawaygirl: ?????????????????????????????????? I KNOW THEY HATE IT BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE I AM DOING THEM A FAVOR ?????????????????????????????????? See, and I actually think this is alright, if done respectfully. If you approach someone and very politely say, “I know this is unorthodox. I just wanted to say, you’re really lovely and I hope you have a great day”, and leave it at that, then in my opinion, that’s alright. It’s sweet and respectful and it might really brighten someone’s day. There’s a huge difference between something like that and being like “hayyy nena u a hawttie back dat ass up mami”. I think the difference rests in the approach and the attitude. No no no NO. See, this is the problem right here: it is YOU who is intruding into somebody else’s personal space uninvited, so it’s not up to you to decide whether it’s “alright” or not. Because you see, the creep who wolf whistles and catcalls probably also thinks “it’s alright” because “hey man, I just paid her a compliment, it’s not like I groped her or anything!” If you really want to be respectful, what you do is think about the reaction that this person that you’re about to engage might have to your “innocent” compliment. You don’t know her. You have no idea whether she’ll react with a smile or whether she’ll be creeped out. But you decide to take the plunge anyway because you really, really want to tell them that they’re beautiful? Uh-huh. If your whim is more important to you than respecting other people’s boundaries, then you’re not being “sweet” or “respectful” at all, no matter how “polite” you might think you are. Please read this and think about it, really think instead of saying “oh, but *I* think it’s alright, therefore it *is* alright!”: http://larissafae.tumblr.com/post/51142364415/gwartallica-insanehousewife With all due respect, there’s a huge difference between an objectifying wolf-whistle and a friendly complement. There’s the issues of intent, approach and respect. If you’re intending to flirt, then best keep your nonsense to yourself. Nobody (myself included, female that I am) likes being the target of objectifying creepy complements—and I’ve had enough in my life that I know precisely what it feels like to be told “eyy mami nice ass” or “eyy you have such sexy lips nena”. That’s objectification pure and simple—what can YOU do for ME, as it were. If you’re complementing someone on a sexualized body part then by all means, you’re a creep and need to back off. But a harmless complement is a harmless complement—complementing someone on a well put together outfit, or mentioning that they have a beautiful smile—those are entirely different. So long as the aim is not to approach, then it’s platonic. To me, it’s the difference between “Hey baby, why don’t you smile for me!” and “Wow, you have a really nice smile!” See? One is very self-focused (“for me”), whereas a genuine complement is other-focused (“your smile”). For me, that’s the critical distinction between a creepy complement and a genuine complement, and that makes a world of difference. And while I do empathize (and know the feeling because hey, fairly femme straight-passing lady here), I still think that she’s identifying a sort of entitled attitude—the same I have. If someone follows up a complement with “so whats your number” then of course it’s sketchy and creepy. That’s what she’s addressing. But I fail to see how a simple “I just thought I’d say I really love that outfit/shade of lipstick/ring/etc” and then wandering away is infringing upon someone’s space. BUT AGAIN: this may be a cultural thing, because I come from a culture where complements and harmless flirting are far more accepted (and acceptable) than in a North American context.

laura-changeling:

appropriately-inappropriate:

takeawaygirl:

??????????????????????????????????

I KNOW THEY HATE IT BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE I AM DOING THEM A FAVOR

??????????????????????????????????

See, and I actually think this is alright, if done respectfully.

If you approach someone and very politely say, “I know this is unorthodox. I just wanted to say, you’re really lovely and I hope you have a great day”, and leave it at that, then in my opinion, that’s alright.
It’s sweet and respectful and it might really brighten someone’s day.

There’s a huge difference between something like that and being like “hayyy nena u a hawttie back dat ass up mami”.

I think the difference rests in the approach and the attitude.

No no no NO. See, this is the problem right here: it is YOU who is intruding into somebody else’s personal space uninvited, so it’s not up to you to decide whether it’s “alright” or not. Because you see, the creep who wolf whistles and catcalls probably also thinks “it’s alright” because “hey man, I just paid her a compliment, it’s not like I groped her or anything!”

If you really want to be respectful, what you do is think about the reaction that this person that you’re about to engage might have to your “innocent” compliment. You don’t know her. You have no idea whether she’ll react with a smile or whether she’ll be creeped out. But you decide to take the plunge anyway because you really, really want to tell them that they’re beautiful? Uh-huh. If your whim is more important to you than respecting other people’s boundaries, then you’re not being “sweet” or “respectful” at all, no matter how “polite” you might think you are.

Please read this and think about it, really think instead of saying “oh, but *I* think it’s alright, therefore it *is* alright!”: http://larissafae.tumblr.com/post/51142364415/gwartallica-insanehousewife

With all due respect, there’s a huge difference between an objectifying wolf-whistle and a friendly complement.
There’s the issues of intent, approach and respect.

If you’re intending to flirt, then best keep your nonsense to yourself. Nobody (myself included, female that I am) likes being the target of objectifying creepy complements—and I’ve had enough in my life that I know precisely what it feels like to be told “eyy mami nice ass” or “eyy you have such sexy lips nena”.

That’s objectification pure and simple—what can YOU do for ME, as it were. If you’re complementing someone on a sexualized body part then by all means, you’re a creep and need to back off.

But a harmless complement is a harmless complement—complementing someone on a well put together outfit, or mentioning that they have a beautiful smile—those are entirely different. So long as the aim is not to approach, then it’s platonic.

To me, it’s the difference between “Hey baby, why don’t you smile for me!” and “Wow, you have a really nice smile!” See? One is very self-focused (“for me”), whereas a genuine complement is other-focused (“your smile”).

For me, that’s the critical distinction between a creepy complement and a genuine complement, and that makes a world of difference.

And while I do empathize (and know the feeling because hey, fairly femme straight-passing lady here), I still think that she’s identifying a sort of entitled attitude—the same I have.
If someone follows up a complement with “so whats your number” then of course it’s sketchy and creepy. That’s what she’s addressing. But I fail to see how a simple “I just thought I’d say I really love that outfit/shade of lipstick/ring/etc” and then wandering away is infringing upon someone’s space.

BUT AGAIN: this may be a cultural thing, because I come from a culture where complements and harmless flirting are far more accepted (and acceptable) than in a North American context.

thisgingerisback: appropriately-inappropriate: takeawaygirl: ?????????????????????????????????? I KNOW THEY HATE IT BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE I AM DOING THEM A FAVOR ?????????????????????????????????? See, and I actually think this is alright, if done respectfully. If you approach someone and very politely say, “I know this is unorthodox. I just wanted to say, you’re really lovely and I hope you have a great day”, and leave it at that, then in my opinion, that’s alright. It’s sweet and respectful and it might really brighten someone’s day. There’s a huge difference between something like that and being like “hayyy nena u a hawttie back dat ass up mami”. I think the difference rests in the approach and the attitude. except the approach and attitude explicitly expressed here is “I know women hate it but fuck what they want I’m going to do it because my need to make them uncomfortable is more important than their desire for me to leave them alone” it is never ever okay for a man to dismiss the feelings or worries of women just because he feels like it and THAT is the issue here Oh, I totally agree with you. It’s not right for -anyone- (male or female, martian or poodle) to infringe upon the space of anyone else. I’d missed the part where dude was being all creepy.

thisgingerisback:

appropriately-inappropriate:

takeawaygirl:

??????????????????????????????????

I KNOW THEY HATE IT BUT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE I AM DOING THEM A FAVOR

??????????????????????????????????

See, and I actually think this is alright, if done respectfully.

If you approach someone and very politely say, “I know this is unorthodox. I just wanted to say, you’re really lovely and I hope you have a great day”, and leave it at that, then in my opinion, that’s alright.
It’s sweet and respectful and it might really brighten someone’s day.

There’s a huge difference between something like that and being like “hayyy nena u a hawttie back dat ass up mami”.

I think the difference rests in the approach and the attitude.

except the approach and attitude explicitly expressed here is “I know women hate it but fuck what they want I’m going to do it because my need to make them uncomfortable is more important than their desire for me to leave them alone”

it is never ever okay for a man to dismiss the feelings or worries of women just because he feels like it and THAT is the issue here

Oh, I totally agree with you.

It’s not right for -anyone- (male or female, martian or poodle) to infringe upon the space of anyone else. I’d missed the part where dude was being all creepy.